How often do you completely and totally present when the children? One of the greatest gifts we can give to the children fully with them. This is often a challenge. When the three children grew, I worked full-time as a consultant wrote books, traveled the tour and continue my passion as an artist – while spending time with my husband.
The only way I could fully present with my kids, when you had to set aside time alone them. only time , was the day I spent quality time with each of the kids what they want to do. During this time I did not answer the phone or deal with several aspects of running a household.
Time was set aside to fully with them, not to think about other things. The message to the kids, spend quality time if you do not fully present, it is not important. When answering the telephone, or more things, or thinking about what you should do is more important than the present with the kids, you get the message that the creature, and in fact can be very important to you.
When I was growing up, my mother is always busy. I never had time for just me. I never wanted to know your own thoughts and feelings, or what was in school. I never had time to play with me, or just hang out with me. Although he said he loved me and that I was important to him, he never felt before.
The words do not cut it if the measures are not followed. If you are not only important for you and your children – talk to them, play with them for a walk, o listening to them, sharing their love, love staring at them – you probably do not feel like you are. No matter how much to buy, or how often you tell them that we love them, you or not important enough to them to actually, you probably will not feel loved and cherished by you.
Children in need of focused attention, and if you do not get it, then pull it out in various ways. They can talk, and is trying to keep your attention. These involve fighting with each other and not listening, or go into opposition tasks, homework, hygiene, sleep, and so on. Many children, even negative attention you feel better than no attention.
This can lead to a negative vicious circle, the more you go out, the less you feel as if I were them, but the less they have a loving and caring way, the more they act. Think about how you feel when someone in his whole attention. Well, I do not feel? How often does someone look into your eyes and give your full attention? How often do you feel truly listened to and listen to someone? Unfortunately, so many people will be heard, and heard that they do not listen and hear. The simple plot is fully present in the kids to do more for them than you can imagine.
I have many customers who have deeply influenced by a friend or family member who really listen to them – even if only occasionally was. There is a chance to be a great gift for children – accompanied them love, compassion, empathy, interest, humor, playfulness and love. You can every day, even if only for half an hour totally cherish. They grow up so fast. Do not miss a day.
