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We must remove from our minds a few phrases in which we make decisions about how we raise our children. They are the statements: When I was a boy… , and If I had done it when I was little, my father would have… or Back when we were in the school they used to… Now this may seem odd to you come on the heels of our last article where we took the position that as a nation, we have find the sound of our children with us u200b u200bnår we used the Fairview at Old Hall.
It is an important distinction here. As parents we must never allow ourselves to fall into the trap of help , for it has been done before, or , it was always like, or , it was so my parents did, as the sole justification for our actions with our children. It is important that we have a behavioral, moral, spiritual reasoning, ethical or legal actions, or demands that we teach our children.
We must be able to explain to our children d a very logical reason, we ask them to behave d a particular way. Essentially we must not only decide: 1) that it is that we want our children to do, but we must also determine, 2) why we want the ; they do! Because that was made for me, n is never a reason to repeat to our children.
There were lots of mistakes in the past, and we are doomed to repeat them if we are not careful to think long and hard about the justification for the duplication of such activities with our children.
Here are some examples to show this couple as we speak. Two historical events demonstrate the obvious problems with doing what has been done before. L slavery was common in the early America. We would certainly not be prosecutor in this practice TODAY hui simply because that , it was done before.
Neither do we learn our children that women should be second-class citizens in the United States, even if n has not even been legally recognized by the Constitution to the 19 amendment was adopted in the early 20th century. It is NOK to say that women should not vote just because it they don have ever had in the past was a ridiculous idea.
Likewise, it gives no sense for us to tell our children that they must have certain clothes simply because that , it was an appropriate style in the past. The same goes for hair and many other standards of conduct and customs. Look to establish dress codes for children.
We do not abandonment of all standards of dress for young people, but we say that we need to make standards and explainable in a logical sort of way, motivated not only on If j had dressed so that my father would have m killed , black explanation. We can have dress codes… but why we do it is critical problem.
Nobody in their right mind would say we scrap all sense of awareness about how our children dress. But dressing d a way, because a previous generation has done is quite ridiculous for instruct our children (unless, of course, would we go back and start the s dress like our forefathers who wrote the Constitution n was simply because it.’s the way they used to do in this country ) Hey, let s get some pictures of ourselves to adolescence, and we can easily see that while we had few ways to s dress a little odd in relation to standards day Hui. The question is , why? Why do we ask our children to s dress d a certain way?
Here is a possible discussion: But Dad, why can not I color my hair blue (wear spandex shorts to church, bringing top Jennifer Lopez provocative use four letter words at the mall like other children , etc.)? , Well, my child, you probably could do it and in a perfect world, it would not really matter, but we do not live in a perfect world, we live in a world that has some weaknesses.. L an d them is that most people in this world is a lot of snap judgments based on prejudice rather narrow.
It is a fact that most people you meet will not be able to see beyond the blue hair (or dress loud, etc.) to get to know you. Many of these same people are able to control the circumstances of your life and make judgments on those who have a major impact on your life. For the same reason it will be a bad idea to wear a hat at a funeral, it is a bad idea to dye his hair blue… people l interpretation errors.
A cap at a funeral will be considered by most to be very disrespectful to the person honored by the funeral. Blue hair would be interpreted by most people as a sign of lack of respect for others. But Dad, what is right now, I try to show my individuality. I do not want to be just like everyone else. , Grand son, I m all in favor of you to be an individual unique, but n everyone can color their hair.
Why not stand out by being really good at something? Or why not try to repair something terrible wrong done by society? Why not distinguish yourself by making the world a better place? J want to help you.
What causes you choose? If the only way you can get to various dying your hair, I would be disappointed in you because you are a single person who has much to offer. Let us, as parents, become teachers and give good solid reasons to choose d adjust their behavior in a positive and productive simply because that it makes sense for them.
