Are you in control of your children or are you just a controlling parent?
When it comes to our children we need to keep control. We are responsible for their safety and well being, of course. But we also have those who teach them, the independence, skills and good decisions need to build their self-esteem at the same time. Learn to pick your battles and your whole family will run smoother and everyone will be much happier.
First of all, it is really important if your child is wearing red striped trousers with blue polka dots T-shirt? If we go to church or to a certain place, then yes, I would prefer that my daughter play at least some, but if we are at home or just walk into the store, I let her pick her own clothes, as long as the weather they are reasonable.
Yes I look like some fun, but I later will get my revenge, of course, because I chose to shoot all the colorful clothing combinations and be able to tease them about it later. My mother did the same with me, she has this wonderful picture of me with orange and pink flowered trousers and a green and blue striped shirt.
Does it really matter if every corner of her room is picked up every day? I say no, it has an area in which they are not their \; projects \, and I personally see no reason why not a little messy sometimes. But we have a hard and fast rule that once a week, completely cleaned the room and no toys or books must be picked up before going to bed from other areas of the house.
She wins and I win. When to do it, an arts and crafts project comes up, you must be willing to submit to the instructions at times. If they bring their imagination to a place other than the instructions then so what. Most of the time you make arts and crafts for they still want to have fun, so why stifle them and make them less fun.
My daughter wanted to make an album, so I have all the necessary things and how it turns out, just wanted a book with its various \; creations \; with glue, markers, glitter and make other crafts. So, what I call the photos, and they had a great time and I had to watch a great time and her help when asked. My daughter loves to help me to bake cakes is her favorite part of stirring the batter.
Sometimes spills a little, but oh well, they will eventually improve on them, especially if I do not offend them and they help me to continue. I have found that with practice it is always better, right adding ingredients and stirring. Basically, what I m saying is, you can not expect perfection from your children. It is not just happen. You need the skills you teach are practical and sometimes they make mistakes.
Do not get me wrong, if they are naughty take over, then by all means on the control and distribute the appropriate discipline, but if they fail because they make trying to learn, then, a little encouragement, and patience will go a long way to. go We all want our children to teach, to be independent and sometimes they are going to show their independence a little too strong for our taste. That is, if you need to make the decision, this is a fight I must control or is it just not a big deal? Just because it means that the parents and not the control that you \; win \; every time you and your child to agree. Think about the parenting skills you have now, those are probably your children when they raise your grandchildren. You might want to also consider that perhaps one day, when you’re older, the roles are reversed and your children will be the ones \; control \; from you.
