It is possible to use the children‘s addiction? All I used to love, avoid pain and to fill inner emptiness can become an addiction – even the kids! If the children are her whole life – if you have a strong emotional connection to a personal source of love and support, as well as other issues and interests that you are busy, then the children to fill the empty space inside of you.
If there is no partner or to contact the partner fails for you, and do not have close contact and meaningful friendships, you can use the children as much emotional connection. If you are not a hobby or job that is exciting and rewarding for you to use the children make meaning of your life.
If there is no daily spiritual practice that brings the love and comfort your soul, you can use the children to fill this need. If this is what you do, that s not good for children. This is a heavy burden for children to be a responsible parent , loneliness and ambition.
Children who feel that this responsibility is often porters, who gives herself to take care of a parent. On the other hand, the child rebels and accused it of responsibility for distances of their parents, spend less and less time at home to avoid the burden of the parents vanity.
I grew up as the only child of a mother who fails to comply with their lives – other than me. Her entire focus was on me, because I could not spend it as you had to spend, and often angry at me. I’m a good girl, a good caretaker of my mother, but the result was that I was nervous and unhappy child, and wanted to get away from my house as much as possible. Our children need to be a part of our lives, not our whole life.
It should be a role model for them, we seem to have a personal responsibility to fill us up. We need to show them how it seems to assume their responsibility to us happy, but to rely on them for our happiness. The kids know that it is important to you, but not as important to the well-being depends on them. It is worth exploring the following questions to see if you can use your child and habit forming:
* There is a strong spiritual experience filled with a feeling of peace and meaning to your life?
* You express your unique talents in a way that you feel is useful and effective for you and give you a kind of fulfillment?
* Have proper emotional relationships with other adults – a partner, other family members or friends? If the answer is yes such, you may not use the children and habit-forming.
* Do you feel bored and useless, if the kids are not around? The children, to give the meaning of life?
* Your sense of worth attached to children s results? Tend to personally when one of the kids have a problem?
* You are too involved in the children s lives?
* You are overly sensitive, if a child angry or distant? Can not find yourself trying to calm the children over the proper boundaries to prevent rejection?
* If you have decided that the children to share the fullness of love, child, or if you have hopes of getting love from them? If the answer is yes one or more of these, it a good chance that their children use the and habit-forming.
If so, then the best we can do for you and your children to a solid spiritual exercises, the sensible way to express your talent and develop the emotional connection and support other adults.
